What should I do if I am in an abusive relationship?
If you are in an abusive relationship….
You are not alone
You are not to blame
You can get help
You have options
- Get medical attention if you have been physically injured
- Save evidence to document the abuse (medical records, photographs of injuries and damage to your property, etc.)
- Make a safety plan, which may include figuring out the “warning signs” that come before abuse:
- work out signals with children and neighbors to call the police
- decide where you can go and what to take with you if you must leave (money, important documents, spare clothes, car keys, etc.)
- protect your children
- plan escape routes out of the home
- Report domestic violence and stalking to the police! They can and will:
- protect you from immediate danger, and help you and your children get out of the house safely
- arrest the abuser without a warrant when there is reasonable cause to believe that an assault has taken place or that the abuser has violated an Order of Protection or a restraining order
- advise you of available shelter programs and other services in your area
- write out a police report which can be used to help prove the abuse occurred and show good cause for a judge to grant an order of protection or a restraining order.